(Trigger Warnings: Rape, Abuse)
You are not your rape.
I do not believe in karma, destiny, or a divine entity that decides what will and will not happen; I believe in free will. I believe that your rape was the result of some horrible person taking what they wanted; displaying power over the helpless; being the one in six. What happened was not your fault, and you did not deserve it. Nobody ever deserves it.
You are not your rape.
It is not your past, it is not your present, and it is not your future. It does not define you. It is not who you are, it is not who you were and it not who you will be. You can choose to define yourself as a survivor, but that is a choice. You do not have to add that label to yourself if you do not want to. You do not have to tell the people around you about the rape. It is preferable, and considered healthy, but it is not required.
You are not your rape.
Suffering this event does not mean that every relationship you have is doomed to failure. Suffering this event does not mean that you will always be in pain. Wounds close. Wounds heal. Wounds scar over, eventually, and scars, eventually, are forgotten, and no longer hurt.
You are not your rape.
This event will not define your actions. This event will not define your relationships. This event will not define your life. It is a dot on the line; something that has happened, but it does not need to continue happening. Like any traumatic event, it can be let go. It's not easy - it never is. But it can be done. You may need a therapist. You may need the help of friends. You may need the help of family. But it can be done.
You are not your rape. You are not your abuse. You are not your damage.
You are a human being, and believe me when I say that I have been there. I'm still there. I'm still struggling. But it can be done.
You are not your rape.
-Freya out.
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- Freya (
valentine_beach) wrote,